In preparing our children for the “Big World” beyond preschool, we guide them in resolving conflicts in a socially appropriate manner. For our children aged 3 and up, if a friend does something they do not like or that upsets them, we encourage them to assertively express themselves. They should say, “Please STOP” and follow with a clear statement such as, “I don’t like that” or “You stood on my foot.” The other child is then expected to respond with an apology, saying “sorry,” and their friend will acknowledge this by saying, “I forgive you.”

If the child does not receive an apology or their concern is ignored, they should then approach the teacher for support. This approach empowers children to advocate for themselves and handle conflicts independently—an important skill they will need as they transition into “big school,” where an adult may not always be available to mediate.